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Barbara Procton

Today is September 9th. Had my mother still been alive, she would have been 82 today. Unfortunately, she died almost 18 years ago and the world has been a lesser place. She was a great mom and a great individual. Each year on her birthday, I reprint the eulogy that my brother Bruce, representing her three children, wrote. So, even though this is not the least bit humorous and I didn’t write it, in honor of my mom on her birthday, I would like to share it with you.

DID YOU KNOW MY MOTHER?

Did you know my mother?

To many of you, Barbara Procton was an example of a courageous person, who dealt with many difficulties and setbacks over the last 9 years with an unparalleled grace. To me, and those who have known her for a lifetime, she was this and much more.

Did you know my mother?

Did you know the woman who taught me that a woman can be much more than just a mother and a homemaker. That, long before women’s rights and equality became an issue, a woman could do jobs equal to or better than men. That respect goes to an individual based upon their intelligence and know how, not based upon their sex?

Did you know my mother?

Did you know the woman who went back to school while raising three children to get her masters degree? The person who, in her teaching career took on many of the hardest cases because she believed that everybody had great potential and that she could help unlock that potential.

Did you know my mother?

Did you know the person who could challenge others to be their best?

Did you know the person who handled the near-death of my brother and years of rehabilitative surgeries with such grace? Who, even while rattled herself, appeared to be unphased to others and a rock of strength? Who put me back together each time through my own accident prone childhood?

Did you know my mother?

Did you know the person who taught me and others to be blind to color or race and who despised put downs based upon differences between people?

Did you know the last of the red hot liberals, who believed that individuals, institutions and government could assist others in a positive way?

Did you know my mother?

Did you know the woman who was, above all an individual?

The person with a sense of style all her own?

The person who wore the hats which, to this day, still embarrass the 10 year old within me?

The person whose exuberance for life, theatre, literature and the arts could be summed up in one word – Wonderful!

Did you know my mother?

Did you know the person with the sense of family that would not let us forget where she, and we, came from? Whose stories about her childhood, her parents, her aunts, uncles, cousins and sister brought us knowledge of a much larger world.

I hope you were fortunate to know my mother, even if you were not touched by all her facets. I hope, and know even more, that the values and knowledge that she imparted to me, my brother, sister and father will stay with you as long as they will stay with me.

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4 Comments

  1. Wendy
    September 9, 2014

    That’s a lovely tribute, Lynn. Thank you for sharing it.

  2. Jennifer
    September 11, 2014

    What a beautiful tribute to your mother. I’m lucky to still have my mother with me and I am even more thankful when I know people who have lost there’s.

  3. Dijana
    September 11, 2014

    This is beautiful, but sad. I have moved 8000 miles from home and, gratefully my parents are still alive, but I feel like I lost them already. Like it’s another world and I feel guilty for not being there and being daughter they deserve.
    reading this post reminded me how much I owe to my mother and how I might never get a chance to give her back or say proper thank you.

    • Lynn
      September 11, 2014

      Awww…just tell her

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