This blog is not for the light-hearted or easily offended. If either one of those descriptions applies to you, i would suggest you start drinking before you read this blog. A sense of humor is suggested. If you don't have one that sucks for you … find one and get a life!
It never really gets any easier talking to your kids about something does it now? What you want to do is impress upon them that perhaps something is a “bad” habit but of course to them, it’s just a critique.
Daniel, who is 21 and a junior at Duke now, is in the throws of interviewing for a summer internship. He’s smart, he’s qualified and he’s a hard worker. He’s everything you’d want in an employee but he says the word “like” A LOT!!!
A WHOLE LOT!
I know that we all use the word “like” a lot in our conversations. I remember when I was young and talking to my dad I would constantly say “you know?” and he would constantly reply, “no, I don’t know.” It was a bad habit and I still use it occasionally (possibly more than occasionally) as well as sometimes saying “like.”
But I noticed that Daniel was using “like” too much and I was concerned that in an interview it wouldn’t come across well. So I talked to him. It didn’t go over well.
As the interview process moved along I talked to him again. Yesterday he informed me that “everyone does it” and while I can’t disagree with it that doesn’t make it a great thing. Then he got ticked off at me and the last thing I want to do is undermine his confidence now that he’s interviewing.
So what to do? If you had a doctor or a professional explaining something to you and constantly saying the word “like” they probably wouldn’t come across as very professional don’t you think?
Getting that point across without personalizing it is no small task and thus far I’m failing. Thank goodness he doesn’t read this blog (EVER) or he’d probably be angry that I’m bringing it up.
How have you guys handled this? He’s not a little kid anymore so I’m not around him all that much and at his age it’s probably not my problem but I do think it’s something that he should resolve.
Last night he had a conversation with Kevin and Kevin commented that he also wanted to say something but we’re not exactly sure what to do. Of course, this morning I emailed him a step-by-step guide on “how to break the like habit” so he probably will never speak to me again so … PROBLEM SOLVED.
See? This is what I think of on a day-to-day basis. I need to get a life … not a LIKE!