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In which i celebrate

If you had told me 13 years ago when Daniel was 4 and Kevin and I were mourning after being told our little boy had Asperger’s, that we would have THIS today, I would have laughed in your face.  But today, TODAY, we are celebrating because Daniel kicked ass on his SAT’s and the journey has been long and arduous.  I dedicate this to the many people who are just beginning this process and say to them, it’s ok…and you and your child will be ok too!

 

 

 

I want to sing, I want to dance

I want to run, I want to skip

I want to shout out to the skies

I want to hug you, I want to cry

I want to laugh, I want to hit

I want to embrace the world

 

To the preschool that threw Daniel out at 4

Thank you for noticing he had issues

 

To the psychologist who diagnosed him with Asperger’s at 4

Thank you for waking us up

 

To the psychiatrist who helped quell his anxiety

Thank you for easing his burdens

 

To the school that took him in despite this

Thank you for giving us a home

 

To the speech therapist who taught him to speak

Thank you for seeing it was much more than speech

 

To the sensory integration group that taught him to cope

Thank you for saying he was fixable

 

To the therapist that taught him to hold a pencil

Thank you for the ability to be normal

 

To the tutor who taught him writing

Thank you for easing our doubts

 

To the mothers of the little boys Daniel hit

Thank you for seeing the good in my little boy

 

To the friends who stuck by him anyways

Thank you for being more than you had to be

 

To the teachers who taught Daniel

Thank you for bringing out the best in him

 

To the coaches who sat Daniel on the bench

Thank you for teaching him fortitude

 

To the SAT Tutor that helped Daniel be all he could be

Thank you for believing

 

To Carol, who has loved him since birth

Thank you for appreciating his differences

 

To anyone and everyone who has affected us in any way

You have helped turn this mess of a little boy into an

incredible human being who is bright, loving, and kind

 

To all who are just going through the process right now

Things will get better

 

To all who only see the road ahead

It’s worth it!

 

To those doubters out there

He kicked ass on his SAT’s so just remember:

 

It’s darkest before the dawn!  My kid has a bright future and yours will too!

 

 

 

 

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68 Comments

  1. Queen Mahin
    April 1, 2011

    Beautiful and heartfelt and congratulations. You did good.
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    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thanks…it’s been a long, and still continuing, journey!

  2. sarah (lotus79)
    April 1, 2011

    Awww! Congrats to Daniel! (I’m a bit teary after all that)

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thanks…kind of unusual for me but then, I was a bit teary too!

  3. robin
    April 1, 2011

    That was beautiful. Congrats.

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thanks Robin…he totally kicked ass and it made me all emotional

  4. Name *
    April 1, 2011

    Congratulations to you both!

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      thanks…and any time you want a pep talk or want to vent, i love to be optimistic for people!

  5. Name *
    April 1, 2011

    What nobody sees in this blog is how much of this is due to your efforts and perserverance. My hat’s off to both of you. Give your lovely son a big hooray for me!

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thanks…it was certainly him and us but his teachers and specialists as well.

  6. Hattie
    April 1, 2011

    Excellent! Lynn, this made me tear up! I know it’s been a long journey and it’s not over yet, but you truly have something to celebrate!

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thanks…and i really wanted to give hope to others who are just starting this journey. You just never know

  7. Pamela D Hart
    April 1, 2011

    Lynn, that is so fantastic. (I needed a tissue) My cousin has Asperger’s, however, no one caught it until adulthood. (He’s about 33 now and has been getting help since his late 20’s). I’m SO glad it’s being caught at a younger age now and children like your Daniel can grow and SHINE, the way they’re supposed to! Give Daniel a hug from me and tell him he ROCKS! And so do YOU!
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    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      thanks so much…early intervention is key! hugs to you too

  8. Carla E. Knight
    April 1, 2011

    I have a theory. It’s just my personal theory and is not based on scientific evidence. However, I believe people with autism, Asperger’s and other developmental and learning difficulties (including dyslexia) are actually incredibly bright people whose wires got crossed somehow. You should be proud that you, your family, and all of those teachers and coaches and doctors have helped Daniel to achieve his potential. He is truly a remarkable and blessed young man.

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thank you…he is the sweetest kid in the world!

  9. Beth (OMG! Yummy)
    April 1, 2011

    As a parent of a 16yr old kid with Asperger’s – thank you for making me cry :-) Congratulations and you have no idea how much I really mean that. How wonderful is your line thanking the preschool for kicking him out – turning those experiences into a positive is the only way to move on from them. Since my son was old enough to interact with another human being, people have said to us “He is so smart.” Little did they know that there are many days when we don’t even think he’ll graduate high school. And it has nothing to do with ability – it is just about getting his frame of reference to fit in the box known as school. He will be wildly successful in life, if we can just get him through high school.

    It takes a village and so much perseverance as a parent but it is so worth it. Great post and great accomplishment. Can’t wait to see what he does with the rest of his life!

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Wow…this really means a lot to me! Sometimes when I think back on where we are I literally can’t believe it! We were luck as we caught it early and could afford the intervention necessary! I hope you guys are as lucky as we were.

  10. NotJustAnotherJennifer
    April 1, 2011

    WOO HOO!!! That’s amazing. Great post.

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thank you so much…it was a great day for us

  11. Jessica
    April 1, 2011

    This is great Lynn! Congratulations to Daniel for doing so well on his SATs. This does call for a celebration. I hope he gets into a college that he wants and does well at whatever he decides to do with his future.

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thanks…we are so proud of him

  12. cathy procton
    April 1, 2011

    awesome, so happy for you all..

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thanks Cathy…I appreciate it

  13. Melissa
    April 1, 2011

    Go Daniel!! I am so proud of you! Lynn, you are an amazing mom! Kevin isn’t so bad either….

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thank you, I appreciate it! kevins pretty awesome so I guess I’ll keep him

  14. jillsmo
    April 1, 2011

    LOVE IT!!!!

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thought you might like it!

  15. Mary Davis
    April 1, 2011

    Congrats Lynn- Daniel is an amazing boy!!! Kevin told me to make sure I read your blog today!! You Rock!! Since we are at the beginning of our journey this attitude helps- we fought the teachers that kept telling us that he was autistic (Aspergers) finally last years teacher opened our eyes- it was just hard to accept- now with alot of help, support and theraphy I can only pray that I will be in your shoes one day with all the success you are enjoying today with Daniel. Thanks. Kevin was so proud today – I could just see it in his face…

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thanks Mary…i wish you the best of luck and hopefully all will be well with you too!

      Take care and contact me if you need to.

  16. Fantastic! Congrats to Daniel on his SATs, and congrats to you and Kevin for raising what seems to be a kick ass kid despite his challenges. I loved this post!

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      thank you…he’s a great kid and we’re very pleased

  17. Lady Estrogen
    April 1, 2011

    Awe – you SHOULD be proud – that’s lovely; I got teary.
    One of my favorite students had Asperger’s and I still often think about how he’s doing :)

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      thanks so much…we’re thrilled with this kid!

  18. vodkamom
    April 1, 2011

    Yes, it IS the darkest before the dawn. I am holding that thought close to my heart right now. And YEAH FOR DANIEL!!

    As a teacher, I adore these stories.

    As a mom, I love them even more.

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      couldn’t have done it without support of the school and the many teachers he’s had…i heart teachers

  19. Kat
    April 1, 2011

    I have just found your blog through VodkaMom and I just did a little fist pump for you. Well done, Daniel.

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      thanks for the fist pump…and thanks for wandering over here. normally i just write humor drivel…this is unusual for me

  20. Penny R
    April 1, 2011

    VodkaMom sent me here. This was lovely – a wonderful story.

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      thanks so much…i appreciate it

  21. Carrie M.
    April 1, 2011

    Lynn–A girlfriend of mine told me she thought of us as she read this artile a little bit ago. I can relate… My 4 yo daughter was diagnosed a few months ago and we’ve been on the move since. Your words are beautiful, and they give me strength to keep moving forward without fear. Thank you for the inspiration!
    And…way to go Daniel!!!!

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      thanks…i’m glad this helped… there is a post on Daniels journey, a success story that you might want to read. If you can’t find it, i can email it to you.

      good luck…i promised that it’s worth it!

  22. Walt
    April 1, 2011

    Congrats I am happy for all of you!

    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      Thanks

  23. Cheryl D.
    April 1, 2011

    WOW! Thanks for the very inspirational post! It gives me great hope for my daughter’s future!
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    • Lynn
      April 1, 2011

      When I get comments like yours I feel so good about these types of posts so really, thank you!

  24. Name *
    April 2, 2011

    so very proud of Daniel, you and Kevin!

    • Lynn
      April 2, 2011

      Thanks so much. There were days that it seemed so impossible!

  25. Oh, is there anything better than a moment of complete and utter triumph?

    So happy for you.

    Love that your son gave you such a moment. Love that he had such a moment.

    That’s just awesome.

    • Lynn
      April 2, 2011

      Thanks…it’s been a long journey and there were days that all was bleak!

  26. Pat
    April 2, 2011

    As a teacher who has worked with students with Asperger’s I want to thank you for sharing your story. It is essential that everyone looks beyond the “label” to the unique and precious individual within.

    • Lynn
      April 2, 2011

      Thanks…when he was diagnosed, there wasn’t much written about it and there was no internet. We were lucky that we lived where we did and could afford the many interventions and therapies he needed.

      He’s a great kid and had already exceeded our wildest dreams.

  27. Tinsky
    April 2, 2011

    Congrats to Daniel on his SATs. It is nice for a child to have someone care for them so much, but not just care, believe in them and encourage their ambitions no matter the hurdles they face. Well done.

    • Lynn
      April 2, 2011

      Daniel barely remembers how hard he worked but the journey has been long and tough…but well worth it!

  28. Leighann
    April 3, 2011

    Beautiful. So wonderful that his rough road has turned into screaming success.

    • Lynn
      April 3, 2011

      Thanks so much!

  29. Billy Craig
    April 3, 2011

    As someone recently diagnosed with Asperger’s (at 35) its nice to hear of a real success story. I bashed my way through school and life and only really understood why life was so difficult when I happened upon a lecture about the autism spectrum. You’ve done your son proud and have no doubt paved the way for others.

    • Lynn
      April 3, 2011

      Thanks so much…I really appreciate that!

  30. Diana
    April 4, 2011

    wow- thank you. This made a big difference to me

    • Lynn
      April 4, 2011

      that really means a lot to me. I was just talking to a friend about perspective and it would have been nice to have known that success was even possible.

  31. Dori Jalazo
    April 6, 2011

    Lynn, you are an incredible human being, parent, and thank you for writing with such passion and compassion, such intense understanding.

    • Lynn
      April 6, 2011

      thanks so much but i certainly can’t take all the credit. I had an entire team working beside me.

  32. Anne
    April 7, 2011

    This made me cry! We’ve had some very tough times with our 6 yr old. She doesn’t have Aspergers, she’s just very tough to parent. I hope I can write a similar post in 12 years! I felt a little like that when we got her kick-ass report card last week…Thanks for helping me to believe it will get better. (:

    • Lynn
      April 7, 2011

      I’m glad this gave you hope! Things will get better…they always did for me at least.

  33. Karen V.
    June 12, 2011

    Thank you. I need this now. My son is 5 and was diagnosed at 3 years and 10 months with HF ASD. Beautiful post and worthy of the win!

    • Lynn
      June 12, 2011

      Thanks…you should read my earlier post on all his interventions. I can’t remember the name but it’s there somewhere

  34. Nancy Rose
    July 4, 2011

    Congrats to you and your son! It is a thrilling feeling when they achieve after so many folks tell you that they can’t. Glad you had folks along the way who provided hope. I am also thankful for all the people who have helped my grandson along the way and believed in him. He is currently in a Brain Balance program and it has done wonders for him. I can’t wait until he goes back to school and they see how much he has improved.

    • Lynn
      July 4, 2011

      I’m so glad that he’s getting some intervention. Early intervention is key and good luck to you both.

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