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In which i discuss blogging … again

 

 

I’ve been thinking.  Yeah, I know …  that’s a dangerous thing for me to do and I will attempt to keep it from happening again.  But at any rate, I’ve been reading a lot about this on Twitter and I was wondering what defines a successful blog?

 

 

As more and more people begin blogging, I think the answer is so varied it really depends on the person.  For example:

 

 

1                 If you are blogging because you “love to write” then the simple act of writing a blog should be enough.  It’s like painting is for me.  I have a house full of paintings.  I’ve never even TRIED to sell any of them and people always tell me that I should be an “artist.”  And yet for me, it’s the actual painting itself that I enjoy.  Being in the “business” of painting has no pull for me.  If I HAD to paint, I’m sure I wouldn’t enjoy it.  So … back to writing.  There are many people who love to express themselves through writing so the ACT itself should be enough.

 

 

2                 If you are blogging as a “personal record” then once again, the simple act of keeping this record should be enough.  I’ve seen it written that many people started blogging so that cute stories, funny incidents and other various and sundry things in their lives and the lives of their children were recorded.  I think this is great.  I can’t even begin to imagine the sheer number of delightful moments that I’ve forgotten simply because there was no medium to record them.  When I see how easy it is to make a video now OFF A CELLPHONE, I regret all the fun times that we don’t have recorded for my kids to see.  And yet, once again, if you’re recording your life, shouldn’t that be enough?  Who cares if you have followers?

 

 

3                 If you are blogging to spread information then I can certainly see the need to have readers.  After all, what’s the point of all this knowledge if it can’t be shared so in this case, I can understand the frustration with a lack of readers.  We all want to be heard, especially if we’ve learned something tangible along the way.

 

 

4                 If you are blogging because you have a personal situation with either you or someone in your family, and you’re looking to connect, once again, a lack of readers shouldn’t be the problem.  If your goal is to connect and form a community, then the actual connection should be enough and becoming a part of a community of like minded people should be your Holy Grail.

 

 

5                 Blogging for money is an admirable, but seemingly impossible, goal.  Every day, thousands of new people begin blogging.  No doubt for every one who is in it for themselves, there are plenty that are in it to make money.  I get this.  For many people, being a stay at home mom is not feasible so if you want to be at home, you would simply need to supplement your income.  For many people, blogging is that chance and yet, there are so many bloggers out there so how do you make money in such a crowded pool?  I have no idea.  That was a rhetorical question.  But certainly, making money requires readers of some sort.

 

 

So blogging?  I have talked to many women who have gone through various stages of blogging.  The beginning is sheer excitement:  refining your style and voice, worrying about followers, building up your base.  I suppose that many of these bloggers get sponsors and become successful.  I’m not really sure but the ones I’ve talked to who have been around for years tell me that you really need to let that go and just enjoy the blogging process.

 

 

So that’s what I’m wondering:  where do I fit in all these categories?  I’m not really in it to make money and while yes, I am enjoying the act of writing, I really don’t enjoy all the Twitter work that goes along with it.  There are times when I’m in a great mood and I absolutely enjoy being on Twitter but there are times when I feel like speaking to no one and checking out stuff and re-tweeting isn’t something I want to deal with.

 

 

Lynn, you might say, what are you trying to achieve?  And therein lies the rub because I’m REALLY NOT SURE.  I write this stuff down and I usually enjoy it.  I feel like my viewpoint is unusual and unique and I love the feedback I get.  When I can help somebody see something in a different way and it helps them, I feel elated.  And yet, if nobody was reading it I can assure you that I would stop. 

 

 

After all, my philosophies are no surprise to me.  I could always paint and sculpt.  So yeah, numbers matter to me.  It bothers me to say that because I normally don’t care about shit like that but in this case, I’m putting in enough energy and time that it needs to be worth it.  And how is it worth it to me?  If people like YOU read it.  Even if you hate it and tell me.  If there’s no impact then I’m not interested.  So I AM trying to get more followers if only for my own self satisfaction.

 

 

So how about you, where do you fit in this spectrum?
 

 

 

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41 Comments

  1. Jackie
    March 11, 2011

    I don’t know where I fall…. I sure know that it’s not in the making money category! That takes a lot of time and effort which I don’t have.

    I agree with you about Twitter. It’s a lot of work getting the word out there about your blog & the new posts you’ve written. And if you don’t do it then it seems that you don’t get a lot of readers. Sometimes I post and just leave it at that.

    Another thing is how do you know if someone is reading if there are no comments? Yea, you can check on the analytics but it seems that if there are comments others are more likely to comment and return. Know what I mean?

    I know that I read but don’t always comment and sometimes I feel like I have to comment.

    This blogging thing is hard!

    • Lynn
      March 11, 2011

      Yeah…I know what you mean. Sometimes I see blogs with lots of readers and I wonder, why this one? But for the most part, in try to ignore all that and just keep trudging along in my own path.

      But thanks for commenting. I’m in the Charlotte airport and it was a pleasant surprise.

  2. Jessica
    March 11, 2011

    Great post Lynn, I think I fall a little in a few of your categories and I’m not sure that is good, since maybe I’m not focused and a bit on the scattered side but I don’t care because I have a bit of a blogging addiction so I will just keep on like you do because it is worth it even if I have one reader.

    • Lynn
      March 11, 2011

      Well, I think you have way more than one reader. I just wonder, especially on gray and dreary days, what my own personal motivations are…and that makes me think about others.

      Clearly, I have too much time on my hands.

  3. Name *
    March 11, 2011

    Great post! I think I fall into a few categories. I like sharing my stories and having a place to document them. I guess my ultimate goal was to get a job in social media which thankfully I managed to do. But I agree it’s a lot of work keeping up w/ it all. The biggest challenge is to stay focused or you can get burned out.

    • Lynn
      March 11, 2011

      Staying focused…man, if I could have EVER done this who knows what I would be today. I just get bored with playing games and rarely do it. I’m not burned out yet, mostly I’m just moody

  4. melissa
    March 11, 2011

    i have no clue, i never have. my blog is an exact reflection of my a.d.d. it’s all over the place. no niche, no idea where i’m going or what i’m going to do once i get there. i blog because i write, i write because i blog. but…i also try to make a little money from that little place ‘o’ mine. sigh. great post, too much to think about!! :)

    • Lynn
      March 11, 2011

      Didn’t mean to tax your brain,,,I was just pondering what my own motivations were and I came up empty-handed as per usual.

  5. Name *
    March 11, 2011

    I am in more than one of those categories too and sometimes it bothers me that I am not focused. Ergo I am going to let my personal blog be just that and take the moolah when it comes and is right. I am launching a niche blog (still in the parenting spectrum) in the coming weeks that will hopefully someday be a successfull source of income, even if just a little.

    And that first line, well now I have Gaston from Beauty and the BEast in my head “Lafoo I’m afraid I’ve ben thinking…a terrible pastime I know…
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    • Lynn
      March 11, 2011

      Gaston, gaston, how I love him… And he decorates with antlers! Probably we all waffle between categories depending on the day…well, at least I do

    • Lady Estrogen
      March 11, 2011

      Awe, I love the comedy in that duet as well! LOL. Great analogy :) xx

      • Lynn
        March 11, 2011

        Hey you…great minds think alike I guess!

  6. tracy@sellabitmum
    March 11, 2011

    Crap, you mean I am not rich and famous? I admit I get pulled in and think “what if” I could be awesome and then I hug my kids and feed them lunch and think “you know – this conversation is so much more awesome than what’s going on at twitter.”

    Basically I just have another glass of wine and then none of it matters. LOL
    xoxo

    • Lynn
      March 11, 2011

      It’s so hard not to get sucked into it all! I’m really trying hard not to let it have any impact on my psyche…

  7. Julie
    March 11, 2011

    I don’t have a blog but when it comes to inviting myself into others bloggers lives by religiously following them ~ I am a whore. I adore your blog simply because you crack me up. I was hooked by the title alone. I also have a daughter just about to graduate HS, so I feel like I can relate to what your talking about (older kids, not babies). Whatever your reason/motivation is to blog, I hope you hold onto ot because like I said, your crack me up and I’m selfish that way!

    • Lynn
      March 11, 2011

      Thank you…now go and get a 100 of your nearest and dearest friends to follow too! Hahaha…just kidding…and thanks for commenting

  8. Karen
    March 11, 2011

    I’m pretty new to blogging (not quite a month yet) so I’m just figuring things out. Not sure how the twitter thing works, you might have to fill me in on that. I started a blog because I like to write, and I have a weird sense of humor..people find my stories funny. I write about whatever inspires me. I’ve had a series of 3 on music, but other than that no real schedule. It’s also for passing on information, I do a segment on fridays people like me with fibromyalgia. I think I’m getting better at the writing thing, I just wish I had more time for it. Some weeks I feel so rushed. I don’t care anything about making money at all….I’m totally doing this for fun. Definitely want more readers, but I’m trying to be patient since I am just beginning. Hopefully that part will come.
    Thanks for listening

    Karen
    lilmuna.blogspot.com

    • Lynn
      March 11, 2011

      That’s how I started too…just trying to get my stories down there. It does take patience, which I suck at by the way, to grow your blog. Meeting people via twitter is important. They say that if your content is good people will find you and that’s true…it’s just slow going. Best of luck. Ill check you out when I’m not traveling.

  9. Pamela D. Hart
    March 11, 2011

    Holy WOW, I just got a pop up that said I won ONE THOUSAND DOLLARS! Maybe THAT’S why I blog!! Gosh, I wish this darn computer had anti-virus! It’s Windows 2000. I’m at work…cheating at reading your blog, Lynn, so feel really privileged! :-)

    Why do I blog? Because I LOVE to write. Must write, truth be told. And typing is much faster & easier than using a pad and pencil, which is what I used to do, until I found the internet and Blogs! So now I have 3. Yes, I’m so anal. They are categorized, that’s how flippin’ anal I am. But I’m so anal that it takes me like ALL day to compose a post! I need to work on THAT. Meaning let up a bit more on myself. I have in a lot of other areas in my life, but not on my writing. (pst…I use word to compose my darn comments!) Did I mention I was anal?

    In short, which this comment is not, I blog mostly for myself, but do enjoy when people read my posts and give me comments/feedback. And no, I’m not hinting at anything there. :-)

    Have a super day. I’m trying. But we just got another 3 inches of snow

    • Lynn
      March 11, 2011

      That’s fantastic that you feel that way. I honestly wish I could but I don’t actually feel compelled to write, just to create…so for me, if nobody reads it, I’m done,

  10. Sharon Heg
    March 11, 2011

    I’ve blogged for a variety of reasons. At first it was just to remember vacations that hubby and I took, because my memory was so bad. We’d come home and people would ask me where we went and what we saw and I’d literally have no idea. That was on LiveJournal. Then I went on to MySpace and that’s when I also started blogging about my philosophy on life. Unfortunately, in 20/20 hindsight, I was not always a very nice person in those days and a lot of my entries were spent dissing people. When we got a Mac account, I put my travel blogs there, again so I could remember. Then I decided to blog “for real” and that’s when I got the WordPress account – called “The Adventures of Littlebit 4.0″…the 4.0 reflects the 4th blog (LiveJournal, MySpace, .Mac and now this). Now it’s still stories and travel…still to help jog my memory but also because I’ve re-discovered my enjoyment of creative writing. I’ve recently been more interested in “the numbers” – how many views, where they came from, etc., but I echo you…trying to get more readers sure is hard!
    Sharon Heg recently posted..Flash Mob Much Part 2My Profile

    • Lynn
      March 11, 2011

      Wow…that’s a lot of different renditions isn’t it…best of luck to you

  11. Jessica
    March 11, 2011

    I have no idea where I fall into those categories. I blog because I blog and I’m on Twitter because I like to try and talk to other people. On days when I don’t feel like doing stuff on Twitter I just don’t get on there. Like the weekends. I tend to take the weekends off from blogging and Twitter to give myself a break and find some balance.

    • Lynn
      March 11, 2011

      Sounds to me like you have it together pretty well! I’m proud of you

  12. Abby
    March 11, 2011

    Me? Stopped giving a flying fuck about my numbers. Like you said: its enough just to write.

    • Lynn
      March 12, 2011

      I’m sp proud of you…i care a little too much myself

  13. Name *
    March 11, 2011

    I am fascinated on so many levels at how blogging unites women. At the same time, I have been so driven to see how they/we are experiencing the process and what expectations we wish this other ‘baby’ takes us. So glad I came across this post – good job. Looks like you have a great community of ladies, and that is what I think so much of blogging is all about!! Here is a post I wrote: “Does it Pay Being a Mom Blogger?” http://ow.ly/4cX5a TY, ladies for all you do!!

    • Lynn
      March 12, 2011

      I’ll check it out tomorrow…thanks for stopping by

  14. Casey Freeland
    March 12, 2011

    All very natural questions. My only advice (maybe not great advice… must consider the source here) is to enjoy yourself and not worry too much about it. I’ve gone through all of this.

    I get about 500 unique visitors a month for the last two years. They’re from all over the world. For me, that’s great. I’ve redone my blog twice, new name and everything, searching for my place in this blogosphere. Finally found it with Written in Blood. It’s a wonderful companion to my writing projects and my exploration as an author.

    So have fun! You’re off to a spectacular start. Really love your blog!

    Cheers,

    Casey

    • Lynn
      March 12, 2011

      Thanks Casey! I really appreciate it. I am having fun. I am just very moody so sometimes, I wonder. I have met a ton of awesome people though!!!

  15. FranceRants
    March 12, 2011

    Woman, are you trying to get me to go visit a shrink? Knock it off, or I’m sending you the bill.

    I’m not falling for any of those reasons. OK?

    P.S. anyone who hasn’t visited my site: google: francerants
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    • Lynn
      March 12, 2011

      France, France ,France…you’re just like me! SOOOO impatient! Hahaha…I’m at seven months and you have two champions in Ann and The Empress. Just keep it up and you’ll be fine

  16. Nicki
    March 12, 2011

    When I first started blogging, I would say that the number of followers didn’t matter to me; I blogged for me. However, when I returned to my blog to find “0 comments” on my posts time and time again, I felt so deflated. I decided I had to actively recruit followers. There is no way I would continue to blog if nobody read what I had to say. I would like to get more followers now but more importantly, I would like it if the ones I had actually read what I write and leave me a brief comment to let me know. It sounds narcissistic and maybe it is but I am sure many of us feel the same way or we would disable the comment button!

    • Casey Freeland
      March 12, 2011

      Very well put! Most of us thrive on comments. Or at least it keeps us writing.

      Cheers,

      Casey

    • Lynn
      March 12, 2011

      That’s true…I like comments although I have noticed that people only comment on these deeper ones and yet, I think the funny ones are appreciated too! There’s just nothing to say about a funny story I suppose

  17. Carri
    March 12, 2011

    I think everyone starts out because they like to write (I know I did). It’s when I actually dove into it and saw all of the opportunities to meet other people and network that I really became hooked. And, really… I’m just narcissistic enough to want comments and validation.
    I’m not really sure where I fit in, though. I know I’m probably never going to get the big sponsors because I don’t fit into that “nice girl” niche.

    • Lynn
      March 12, 2011

      Comments I can completely understand as it means your readers are engaged. For me personally, it’s not about validation. It’s almost like making my tine and effort worthwhile. I have met boatloads of interesting people though.

  18. Kimberly
    March 13, 2011

    I’ve been thinking about this a lot too. While as a single mother, additional income is definitely an added bonus, I write because I love to write. If it can ultimately make me some moolah, then that’s great.

    However, I have determined that I’m not a true “mommy blogger” — I write about too many varied things that have little or nothing to do with my kids. I’m a writer. I use my blog as my medium. It’s a fast way to publish my thoughts…and if someday that converts to a print publication, even better.

    I blogged about it recently: http://www.rubberchickenmadness.com/2011/03/faq-1-what-type-of-blog-do-you-write.html
    Kimberly recently posted..Parenting SucksMy Profile

    • Lynn
      March 13, 2011

      It’s hard not to think about it. I try not to let it affect me but there are days.

  19. Sylvia Ellison
    March 13, 2011

    I found your site through #blogchat … I really enjoyed reading your blog. I think I started blogging because I want to share with others. I know it’s not for money, yet I would like to connect with others who are similarly minded around the globe. Thanks for sharing. I’ll be following your thoughts.

    • Lynn
      March 13, 2011

      Hey, thanks for checking me put and I’m glad you enjoyed it! Hope to see you around

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