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In which i found something

the thinker

I was going through some files the other day and I found something that I thought I had lost. It was my father’s eulogy that I wrote in 1998. I’ve done a pretty good job of saving anything emotional from my mom and dad but I haven’t been able to locate this in years.


At any rate, I read through it and I was surprised how teary it made me. I won’t share it today because it’s on paper and not my computer and I would probably have to scan it or retype it to put it up. I think, however, that I should probably do it by next week for father’s day or on July 31st for his birthday.


My parents rarely leave my thoughts. I don’t sit around and wonder so much about what they’d think of me. I’m basically the same person that I was when they were around and I know they loved me then and I’m sure they’d still love me now.


Nope, I think about my kids and what it would have been like for them to have grown up around my parents. I know my parents would have enjoyed all their grandchildren and not just my kids but Bruce’s and Brad’s too.


I ran into an old friend of my parent’s yesterday at the movies and boy, she was old. See, my parents died in their 60’s so I never thought of them as old and I never watched them age.


Afterwards, I pondered what it would be like to have seen my parents so old and weak. It was weird very frankly.


However, I would still have loved for my kids to have known them. They were smart and articulate and interesting. They loved to learn and sometimes I wonder how in the world I was their child. I’m not like that at all.


My mom was into social justice and she would have been thrilled with all the rights that LBGT people have but I think she would have been disgusted with all the racial relation problems. After all, she worked as the only white professor at a historically black women’s college in the 70’s. She was a trailblazer.


My dad would have been unhappy with all the Middle East stuff going down because he actually went, as a Jew, to visit the Palestinian camps in Israel. He hated how they were treated.


So that’s what I’ve been thinking about this week. I should probably strive to be a better person and individual. I’ve been thinking about what I can do to make more of a difference and I’m wondering if I’m up to the task.


I’ll let you know and I’ll share my dad’s eulogy sometime.


Enjoy your parents while they’re around. That’s what I really think.

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  1. Sheryl Perez
    June 15, 2015

    Thanks Lynn!
    Although this made me cry, the tears were for how beautifully you described your Mother and Father.
    Their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren will carry with them the legacy and their spirit. This post should stir in all of us the question “what can I do to make a difference”.
    You have raised three intelligent, caring and family oriented children. I applaud you and Kevin for your parenting insights but I know it had to come from somewhere – a gift from your parents!
    I would love to read more about your parents – I wish I could have met them!

    • Lynn
      June 16, 2015

      thanks Sheryl, I’m going to type the post into the computer. I was so shocked to find it. I thought I had lost it forever. I really miss my parents. Tessa is so, so lucky to have you in her life!

  2. Amy
    June 16, 2015

    What a blessing to have unshakable confidence that your parents loved you. Treasure that for all of us not so fortunate. I know for a fact that you’ve passed on that confident love to your 3 children. It’s so wonderful to observe.

  3. Susan R.
    June 17, 2015

    Beautifully said, Lynn! Your parents were a joy to being around.

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