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I don’t normally get too involved in all the little “blogging wars” and “feuds” that go on in the online world but I decided that I would actually address this one. The other day I read a post that Lisa Belkin of the Huffington Post tweeted out about the big schism in the “daddy blog” world. I, of course, being completely in space knew nothing about it.
Since reading the initial post I have read several other posts by other bloggers including bloggers at Babble who have addressed the issue. The main issue seems to be that several dad bloggers think that one of the biggest dad bloggers, who put out a press release on HIMSELF, isn’t completely honest in his blogging endeavors resulting in a huge number of followers.
When asked about it, said blogger claimed to be “better” than the others and thereby pissed off the other dad bloggers. I don’t know any of the parties involved but the entire situation has me flabbergasted.
We live in a world where we have a peak into the lives of “Real Housewives of the OC”, low-class, uneducated morons from the “Jersey Shore” and “has been celebrities” in “Celebrity Rehab and ‘Big Brother”. We happily watch people screw up and screw each other like in the “Real World.” We want a window into their world. I refer to this trend as “the dumbing down of America.”
For the most part, I don’t watch reality tv. I have before and I know that it’s incredibly addictive but I don’t want to be part of the populace that causes this trend to continue. That’s my choice. Why just the other night I was by myself switching channels when before I knew it, I was watching a major catfight on “Real Housewives of the OC.” It was appalling, and yet, I couldn’t turn it off. I was mortified that these women, heavily made up and bejeweled and over-botoxed would be willing to show themselves to the public.
But that’s the point. People will do anything to get fame … or in the blogging sense, to get followers. So you exaggerate a story. This is America, bigger is better and the more shocking you are the better the chance you have of being discovered.
I think that people look into the world and think one of two things: wow, their life is more interesting than mine so I can dream about that lifestyle or, Wow: my life is so much better than that. They might have money and jewels but they’re a bunch of phonies.
We use this stuff to feel better about our selves. The fact is, that it’s not about blogging with integrity; it’s about living with integrity. It’s about admitting that you have faults and foibles and liking yourself despite that. Look around you. How do you feel when people admire your best friend but you KNOW that she’s had a breast augmentation. They’re admiring an ideal that doesn’t exist. I’m not suggesting that people shouldn’t have surgery. I think people should do whatever they want to feel better about them BUT it’s not natural. Very few people have perfect lives. Very few people have it all and most people aren’t willing to divulge the dark side of their soul.
I have been very lucky. I’m married to a great guy and we have three kids but although they’re fairly bright, attractive and personable kids they’re certainly not without their flaws. Kevin and I see a million things we could have and possibly should have done differently. They’re not perfect but hopefully, despite their flaws, they’ll grow up to be viable and functioning members of society.
Hopefully they’ll be loving and supportive children, siblings and eventually spouses and parents.
So back to the initial feud. Why is it so damn shocking that some asshole can become a big blogger? He wrote a post. I read it, it was fine. It went viral. More people started following him. He got bigger and bigger. Of course there’s jealousy. Of course there’s resentment. The fact that the guy is an ass and announced that he’s just “better than the rest” didn’t help.
But, he wouldn’t have gotten bigger if people weren’t reading him would he? Are those people following him because they think he’s awesome? Or are they following him to see what asshole thing he’ll say next. I have no idea because I don’t read any of that crap. The thing is, people WANT to follow assholes. People like controversy.
PEOPLE ARE BORED. They read other blogs because they’re informative, interesting, and fun or they just suck so badly they make them laugh.
So I don’t understand these feuds. Everyday you see things that you don’t like. I see people doing things that I don’t agree with. I see opinions on TV that are downright stupid and millions of people apparently disagree or it wouldn’t be on TV right?
And yet, I don’t address that because this is life. So, instead of “feeding the troll” as it were, why don’t these other dad bloggers just ignore the guy? Eventually every hot air balloon comes down.
Blogging is a funny thing. I started around the same time as that guy. I don’t have a particularly large blog although I think I have a fairly loyal following. I blog because I want to. When I don’t want to anymore I’ll stop. I think a better approach for these other dads is to figure out WHY they’re blogging, what they want and more importantly, why they even give a shit about one stupid blogger.
It’s all about what you want. Would I like my blog to be bigger? Honestly? Yes. Am I willing to work for that goal? Absolutely not. If it happens magically it’ll happen but I have better things to do with my time (Mahjong, games, puzzles, books etc.) then worry about that crap.
Perhaps people should just examine themselves and stop looking through the window at the rest of society.
Just my opinion but this is my blog and I can say or do whatever the hell I want with it. That’s the joy of this country. Self-expression for better or worse.