This blog is not for the light-hearted or easily offended. If either one of those descriptions applies to you, i would suggest you start drinking before you read this blog. A sense of humor is suggested. If you don't have one that sucks for you … find one and get a life!
I’m a pretty cynical person and yet, I’m also somewhat naïve. It’s a curious mixture because even though I usually approach situations with skepticism, I also assume when somebody tells me something that they’re telling me the truth. I suppose that’s because I don’t believe in lying. I don’t lie.
Out at BlogHer however, I found myself wondering about something someone had said to me. Here’s what happened:
I went up to a very well known blogger (I won’t mention a name here) and introduced myself. I wanted to thank her because when I had JUST started blogging and tweeting, I sent her a Tweet asking for some help and she gave me some advice.
Now that I’m an old-pro at all this, I realize that it was somewhat inappropriate to just do that and yet, despite the fact that she must get a million mentions and DM’s, she took the time to respond to me. At any rate, I explained who I was and that she was far nicer than she needed to be and that I had been impressed (certainly in retrospect) that she took the time to respond so kindly to me.
She said that she knew who I was, that it was no problem, that she READ my blog even though she never commented on it and that she followed my Twitter stream via several of her lists.
Was I excited? Yup! Shocked actually. I couldn’t believe that she not only knew who I was but read my blog and followed my tweets. I mean she follows thousands of people so I usually assume under those circumstances that my tweets are never seen. So that was an awesome way to start the conference and it literally sent me over the moon.
Today, however, I was sitting at my computer and I decided to check out the lists that follow me. There aren’t really that many so it’s not really a chore. And guess what? You guessed it … nowhere on the 116 lists that follow me is her Avatar. Now I suppose it’s possible that she follows somebody else’s list that follows me but I can assure you that there is no list belonging to her that is following me.
Am I disappointed? Only in myself for being so gullible. It’s entirely possible that she told EVERYONE she met that she “reads” their blog and doesn’t comment and “follows” them on Twitter. If so, she’s better than I am at keeping a straight face and yet, why bother? I mean, if you’re a big blogger you couldn’t possible keep up with everyone so why pretend? I would rather the person say “I’m sorry but I don’t know you” or “honestly, I don’t read your blog!”
That’s what I do at least. I meet people who read my blog and yet I don’t read theirs. It has nothing to do with whether they’re a “good writer” or a “good person”; it might be as simple as they talk about their kids and I’m past that phase. For whatever reason, I mostly just read humor blogs. There are some blogs that I read when a new post comes out, some blogs I read sporadically when I see something interesting and some blogs I rarely read.
Does it have to do anything with my personal feelings about the blogger? Not always. When I see something that piques my interest, I read it. If not, I don’t. Simple as that. However, if you were to ask me whether I read your post or not, I certainly wouldn’t lie no matter how uncomfortable it is to admit that I don’t.
So what’s my point? It’s all about personal integrity and honesty. Just like I don’t think you should print something online that you wouldn’t be willing to say to someone’s face, I also don’t think you should feed someone bullshit.
Just own up to your own behaviors. After all, read my blog, don’t read it. Whatever it doesn’t matter. Just don’t fucking lie to me because that ACTUALLY pisses me off.
I’m just saying …