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I was talking on the phone the other day with a “blogging” friend (yeah I have a few. What of it?) and she was telling me that she was “upset” at the way she was portrayed on another bloggers post. We were having a conversation about “creative license” and I gave her my two cents and now I’m giving it to you.
I think that everyone takes a little creative license when they’re writing their posts. For example, if I was having a conversation with my husband and kids instead of having ALL THE KIDS in the post I might just give the majority of the conversation to one kid. My kids “claim” (and this isn’t true by the way) that I take ALL THE FUNNY lines as mine and leave them as the “straight” person. First of all, ALL THE FUNNY LINES??? Doubtful.
Second of all, what the hell are they even in the post for if not to feed me all the set up lines? Right? RIGHT? At any rate, the conversations that take place are true but sometimes I do “interpret” things. For example, when Kevin gives me “THE LOOK” I know that means, “Lynn, I’m going to kill you” so since I can’t just say “the look” I actually write, “Lynn, I’m going to kill you.”
So basically, the tone of the conversation is the same but some lines may or may not have been moved around a bit. Now, I only do this for my family. I would never just start putting things or motivations in other people’s mouths.
But that’s EXACTLY what happened to my friend. She was in a situation at a conference with another blogger and the other blogger wrote a post about it. My friend said that isn’t AT ALL what happened. Lines were put in her mouth and motivations into her actions that NEVER HAPPENED and she was downright pissed.
She had been a reluctant observer of the situation but when the post was written up to make the other blogger look good, it made my friend look like she was the one steering the situation.
FOLKS!! This is just plain wrong. While my kids bitch and moan about my blog misrepresenting them (I don’t) and making them bitchier than they are (not possible), I only do this to MY kids (and possibly Kevin). I would never start doing this type of thing to people who weren’t in my family.
You can’t just set up another person who happens to be there and make them the one that’s kind of a jerk while you’re the hero just because you want to. Not only is this disingenuous, it’s not fair to the other blogger. Especially if you LINK to said blogger and tell them that you mentioned them before you EVER ask them if that’s even ok.
It’s not ok; it’s bullshit. It really makes you wonder about all the shit out there. Since people can represent themselves as ANYTHING they want on the web, don’t you wonder what they’re really like? Are these wild loudmouth women REALLY just church mice in person? Is their blog really just an alter ego? If so, should they come clean with that or should they let us believe that’s really them?
I don’t know the answer. I just know that for me personally, what you see is what you get. My readers who know me in real life would tell you that the tone of the blog is exactly how I am. When I do meet people I’m pretty much the same in person. Now I’m not here to tell you how it’s done but I WILL say that if you’re taking “creative license” and that “creative license” affects how somebody else is portrayed, you’d better be careful.
While my friend won’t call this woman out (I would have) I’m doing it for her albeit anonymously. I mean she’s way too nice to say anything but I certainly don’t have that problem.
So bloggers out there! I’ve got my eyes on you! Just saying …