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In which i’m talking to you bitch!

 

I was talking on the phone the other day with a “blogging” friend (yeah I have a few. What of it?) and she was telling me that she was “upset” at the way she was portrayed on another bloggers post.  We were having a conversation about “creative license” and I gave her my two cents and now I’m giving it to you.

 

I think that everyone takes a little creative license when they’re writing their posts.  For example, if I was having a conversation with my husband and kids instead of having ALL THE KIDS in the post I might just give the majority of the conversation to one kid.  My kids “claim” (and this isn’t true by the way) that I take ALL THE FUNNY lines as mine and leave them as the “straight” person.  First of all, ALL THE FUNNY LINES??? Doubtful.

 

Second of all, what the hell are they even in the post for if not to feed me all the set up lines?  Right? RIGHT?  At any rate, the conversations that take place are true but sometimes I do “interpret” things.  For example, when Kevin gives me “THE LOOK” I know that means, “Lynn, I’m going to kill you” so since I can’t just say “the look” I actually write, “Lynn, I’m going to kill you.”

 

So basically, the tone of the conversation is the same but some lines may or may not have been moved around a bit.  Now, I only do this for my family.  I would never just start putting things or motivations in other people’s mouths.

 

But that’s EXACTLY what happened to my friend.  She was in a situation at a conference with another blogger and the other blogger wrote a post about it.  My friend said that isn’t AT ALL what happened.  Lines were put in her mouth and motivations into her actions that NEVER HAPPENED and she was downright pissed.

 

She had been a reluctant observer of the situation but when the post was written up to make the other blogger look good, it made my friend look like she was the one steering the situation.

 

FOLKS!! This is just plain wrong.  While my kids bitch and moan about my blog misrepresenting them (I don’t) and making them bitchier than they are (not possible), I only do this to MY kids (and possibly Kevin).  I would never start doing this type of thing to people who weren’t in my family.

 

You can’t just set up another person who happens to be there and make them the one that’s kind of a jerk while you’re the hero just because you want to.  Not only is this disingenuous, it’s not fair to the other blogger.  Especially if you LINK to said blogger and tell them that you mentioned them before you EVER ask them if that’s even ok.

 

It’s not ok; it’s bullshit.  It really makes you wonder about all the shit out there.  Since people can represent themselves as ANYTHING they want on the web, don’t you wonder what they’re really like?  Are these wild loudmouth women REALLY just church mice in person?  Is their blog really just an alter ego?  If so, should they come clean with that or should they let us believe that’s really them?

 

I don’t know the answer.  I just know that for me personally, what you see is what you get.  My readers who know me in real life would tell you that the tone of the blog is exactly how I am.  When I do meet people I’m pretty much the same in person.  Now I’m not here to tell you how it’s done but I WILL say that if you’re taking “creative license” and that “creative license” affects how somebody else is portrayed, you’d better be careful.

 

While my friend won’t call this woman out (I would have) I’m doing it for her albeit anonymously.  I mean she’s way too nice to say anything but I certainly don’t have that problem.

 

So bloggers out there!  I’ve got my eyes on you!  Just saying …

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21 Comments

  1. Julie
    April 18, 2012

    It’s like cyber kindergarten.

    • Lynn
      April 18, 2012

      My friend would never have said something but I have no such problem

  2. Suniverse
    April 18, 2012

    Creative license or selective memory? I always wonder if people actually believe what they are saying when they retell a situation in a way that wasn’t what happened.

    • Lynn
      April 18, 2012

      who knows? i’m guessing in the blogging world it’s all about making yourself look good, even at the expense of others…it didn’t happen to me so i’m not sure

  3. Alexandra
    April 18, 2012

    Oh, drama.

    I just step away..

    • Lynn
      April 18, 2012

      it’s never about me…I’m always oblivious…I was just speaking up for my pal

  4. Melanie
    April 18, 2012

    I am the exact same person in my blog as in life. I never mention friends by name unless I know it’s okay with them. If the blogger who posted wanted to make stuff up they should have not mentioned the other blogger’s name and definitely shouldn’t have linked to their site. That, to me, just seems intentionally rude and spiteful.

    • Lynn
      April 18, 2012

      I agree…which is why there are no names on this post…just a generalization of don’t do that!

  5. Jester Queen
    April 18, 2012

    You damn straight would have called the other blogger out. Your friend should at least put up her side of the story of what happened!!! What kind of ASSHOLE links to you and makes you feel shitty on purpose????

    • Lynn
      April 18, 2012

      yeah, i would have. Well, it pissed her off but wasn’t that big of a deal to her and she had a heart attack when i sent her this post.
      In other news, i’m taking much of your advice and assimilating all the reports into “writing” form.

  6. Kyla@Mommy's Weird
    April 18, 2012

    Now I want the link.

    • Lynn
      April 18, 2012

      nope….promised her i’d keep it secret

  7. The Mommy Psychologist
    April 18, 2012

    I’m convinced that the blogosphere allows people to be and say things they NEVER would in a real time setting. Never. In addition to blogging, I also teach online. I am constantly amazed at the things my students “say” to me. They would never utter them if they had to say them to my face. Not in a million years. Yet enter the online world and all bets are off.

    On a lighter note, I wrote a post about my husband’s reaction to his best friend’s wife breastfeeding and his response was- “I did not! and I was not!” He thinks I exaggerated. Nah..I was telling the truth!

    • Lynn
      April 18, 2012

      oh, with family members it’s free rein (or is that reign) or rain …

  8. Name *
    April 18, 2012

    I am loving this!!! I am with you! all of it! alter ego – church mouse, allllllll of it!
    Great post.
    Have a pretty day!
    Kristin

    • Lynn
      April 18, 2012

      hahahaha

  9. Kathrryn
    April 18, 2012

    Now although I don’t know you in person, it seems that I really want to meet and make friends with you..
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  10. Elizabeth P. Carter
    April 19, 2012

    I hope you can update your blog and for sure, we will be happy to read it. Thanks that you shared.I love this link up; it’s always so much fun, so thanks for hosting!
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  11. lariane
    April 19, 2012

    I always wonder if people actually believe what they are saying when they retell a situation in a way that wasn’t what happened.
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  12. Florence18Moore
    April 21, 2012

    They would never utter them if they had to say them to my face. Not in a million years.
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  13. Greyson
    April 24, 2012

    This is what happens when people tell stories and fabricate them… such a horrible thing to do
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