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In which I say FUCK YOU Penn State

 

I’m ANGRY.  REALLY ANGRY!!!

To say that this entire Penn State scandal is making me sick is a massive understatement.  I can’t even believe that this situation has festered as long as it has.  It is a massive failure of the system, both Penn States and the moral system of the people involved.

 

I realize that the people involved are saying that they “did what needed to be done” but honestly, it’s a copout.  At what point did people become so worried about themselves that they wouldn’t step out and take a risk by righting a wrong?

 

The first janitor who walked on a Sandusky giving oral sex to a minor; why didn’t he head slam the guy against the wall?  How do you walk away from that?  The second person that walked in and saw Sandusky sodomizing a minor; I would have rushed into that shower and stopped it.  Not just gone home and told my dad.

 

These young kids have lost an innocence they will never get back.  It NEVER NEEDED TO HAPPEN. I see it time and time again that people back down from difficult choices because they are AFRIAD to stand up.  Whether it’s seeing other people do drugs, drink and drive, whatever.

 

I realize that to stand up is putting yourself and possibly your job and family at risk, but how do you live with yourself if you don’t?

 

I don’t know what Joe Paterno knew or what he didn’t know.  I realize that the guy was cleared of criminal charges after “showering” with a minor.  Personally, when the guy wouldn’t promise to NEVER shower with a minor again, I would have made sure he was never around ANY kids again and yet, he was allowed to remain a part of the program.

 

WHY?  Who cared more about themselves than the lives of all these young boys?  Think this doesn’t affect you?  IT does; because every day we send our children into the care of others.

 

My kids have gone to sports camps; sleep away camps and other trips where other adults are the chaperones.  We are all each other’s keepers.  Pay it forward works both ways.  If I don’t watch out for your kids, who will be watching out for mine?

 

The fact that this situation has festered for so long in this environment shows a complete and total breakdown in both the system and the moral code.  Because it’s such a big program, many people decided not to rock the boat.  Well, the boats been rocked and now it’s sinking.  A lot of people are culpable.  In my opinion, doing nothing is almost as bad as the person doing the act itself.

 

It’s amazing to me.  I hear people ALL THE TIME saying that if the “holocaust” was to happen today they wouldn’t stand idly by.  And yet, this is so much smaller and lots of people did the absolute minimum possible.  You’re not risking your life reporting stuff like this but people didn’t.

 

Standing up is difficult and sometimes uncomfortable.  But it’s also the RIGHT thing to do.  When did people become so selfish and insecure that they couldn’t do the right thing?

 

And now, all these kids at Penn State are protesting Joe Paterno being fired.  Are you kidding me?  These kids that were messed with are their age?  They could be the person sitting next to them in class! Really?  IS the stupid football program more important than doing right?  So Joe Paterno didn’t COMMITT the act?  Big deal.  Why didn’t he know?  IF he did know and did nothing that’s unbelievable and if he didn’t know, why didn’t he delve into the situation when it came to light?  Ignorance is no excuse.

 

Really people, look around you.  REALLY LOOK!  You are responsible for your community just as your community is responsible for you.  Can’t do it alone?  Damn right you can’t.

 

This entire thing is disgraceful because the timeline is SO LONG.  It has been going on since the 90’s.   Standing up is difficult but keeping quiet is unconscionable.  I’d like to think that the people in my community would have done the right thing.  I’m sure there are “little Penn States” going on ALL THE TIME.  Isn’t it time that people risked themselves for the greater good?  I certainly hope so.

 

That’s my two cents.

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58 Comments

  1. Theresa
    November 11, 2011

    Amen! The ones who didnt tell anyone what they saw are just as guilty! I don’t know how they can live with themselves. They could have saved a kid from this horror that he will live with for the rest of his life. All of them need to be horsewhipped! And those kids protesting. WTF? stupid kids.

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      I agree…it makes me so mad

  2. Melissa
    November 11, 2011

    It’s hard to know how I would react upon seeing something as disturbing as what’s been described. I think that the graduate assistant tried to do the right thing by going to the higher ups. I’m a little unclear as to whether he eventually told the police or the police found out some other way…

    I have to say that, unlike the people that are upset that Joe Paterno was fired, I was actually supportive of the decision to fire him and the President because, in essence, they allowed Sandusky to continue to have access to the gym and to be in a position where he could continue abuse, if he was really doing it. I don’t see how it was any different than the Catholic Church sexual abuse scandal where abusive priests were moved around after allegations of sexual abuse were made – those higher ups were viewed as culpable to some degree. How is this any different? I thought that the decision to fire these people was the right one.

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      I think you’re right…of course, i think we’re going to find out much, much worse. It’s exactly like the Catholic Church. They allowed the abuse to continue.

      I think i would have walked in and busted Sandusky’s head open. Of course, i do stuff like that.

      • Amy
        November 11, 2011

        AMEN! I cannot imagine in a moment of dire emergency when a immediate decision must be made: to do or walk…and fucking walking away. I just cannot fathom how anyone could walk away. I would have ran in there like a fucking wild banshee wrapped that kid up and carried him out of there.

        “When did people become so selfish and insecure that they couldn’t do the right thing?” Because they are cowards and do not have a moral compass. And, I tell you what else people are losing the fucking ability to think for themselves. If it was you that walked in there, would you have to have someone tell you what to do?! Not me. I might discuss it with someone on my way to the police station. Unfuckingbelievable! I am so disgusted with society right now I can hardly fucking stand it!

        That’s my two-cents!
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        • Lynn
          November 11, 2011

          I know..because we ALL send our kids out and we all have to watch out for each other. This situation has made me sick. Like i can’t stop watching and i’m just so pissed.

    • Name *
      November 12, 2011

      Are you kidding me Melissa?! Tried to do the right thing by walking away?! I hope you never come across a kid that just got hit by a car because you might be too traumatized to check for a pulse. I really hope that you never come across a woman being raped because you might have to go home and journal about it before you call 911 because of how hard it was for you to see. I guess we know which guy you would have been playing in “The Accused” I would have grabbed whatever head bashing device I could find within 5 feet, and if there wasn’t anything the pure rage I would have coursing through my body at the sight of a child being eaten alive by a monster would be enough to tackle him and stand full weight on his balls while dialing 911 and grabbing the kid a towel all at the same time.

  3. By Word of Mouth Musings
    November 11, 2011

    “Pay it forward works both ways. If I don’t watch out for your kids, who will be watching out for mine?”

    The most important line you have in there …. if only people lived this way!
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    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      Doesn’t make any sense!!!

    • liz
      November 11, 2011

      I liked those lines, too. I stumbled this and tweeted.

  4. Katja Brown
    November 11, 2011

    Lynn: Bravo for taking a stand! I especially like this sentence on your blog today: “We are all each other’s keepers.”

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      This has pissed me off so badly

  5. grAMPS
    November 11, 2011

    Well said.
    And also, football is not bigger than what is right

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      I know…unbelievable

  6. Amy - Hamlet's Mistress
    November 11, 2011

    I agree with 99% of your post. What I do not agree with is the title. And also the phrase “all these kids”. They estimate between 1500 and 2000 kids came out that night. There are 44000 kids that attend that campus. So at most less than 5% of the entire student body. And while that less than 5% acted abhorrently… I grant you that… it was still less than 5%. Less than 5% of every group are morons. I have talked to a few of that 5% and more than anything they’re fueled by a disbelief that this beloved figure could not do anything in this situation. And there’s a whole lot of denial. I’m NOT defending them. I’m ashamed by their actions. I am more ashamed at the INACTIONS of those in a position to have put an end to these atrocities.

    As a PSU grad I am despondent and heartbroken for these victims. And grieving for the the man we all THOUGHT we knew. The one that would never turn a blind eye and enable a child rapist. It has been shocking and terrible all around.

    But I do understand your outrage. We all feel it. To our core.
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    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      I can understand that those kids were just a minority but still, from the stuff I’ve been hearing that’s way too many.

      Thanks for the comment…this isn’t an indictment of all kids…or all people affiliated with Penn State

  7. The Stiletto Mom
    November 11, 2011

    I so want to bitch slap that assistant coach who caught him raping that boy and called Daddy instead of busting Sandusky’s head open and saving that TEN YEAR OLD BOY. And he still has a job???? Unreal. The lengths these people will go to to protect their stupid sports legacies blows my mind. They need to lock all of them up and throw away the key. I’m just furious in case you couldn’t tell…

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      I don’t actually know how that guy lives with himself. I couldn’t

  8. Kristin @ What She Said
    November 11, 2011

    Amen, sister! That is all.

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      thatnks

  9. Alexandra
    November 11, 2011

    Exactly.

    I read the Grand Jury presentation.

    No way would I have ever walked away from that being done to a child.

    NO WAY.
    I would’ve been slamming my heel into the ahole’s head and dialing 911 with the other.

    Such a piece of eternal hell on earth for these children. Forever changed. Their lives forever changed.

    This is rape..RAPE.

    I cried so hard my eyes are still red.

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      I know…i suppose that’s what has upset me so much. HOW COULD YOU ALLOW THAT TO HAPPEN AND NOT INTERVENE???

  10. Lady Estrogen
    November 11, 2011

    It is completely outrageous. I can understand why it’s got people in such an uproar.
    Your two cents were worthy!
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    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      thanks…i don’t think i said anything that other people don’t feel

  11. Denise
    November 11, 2011

    You are absolutely right. How could someone see that and walk away? How can they justify not calling the police? I just really don’t get how you can ignore something like that.

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      no excuse

  12. Julie
    November 11, 2011

    This morning on my way to work I heard on the news that he has hired a criminal defense attorney. I had to stop the car so I could throw up.

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      well, he is saying he’s innocent

    • Melissa
      November 11, 2011

      Julie – I am a criminal defense attorney. In this country we have a system that allows him to present any defenses that he has and to have an attorney to represent him. You DO after all want any convictions that may be handed down to stick right?

      • Julie
        November 11, 2011

        Melissa, My nausea has subsided. It was rage induced with zero intellectual imput. You are 100% correct. I do want any and all convictions to stick. I also want Lynn’s readers to be on the jury.

  13. frank anderson
    November 11, 2011

    I also share your outrage both for the original incidents and then the way it was covered up or ignored. I’m very curious to see why it took years for all of this to come to life….wtf! Very scary that seemingly honorable men would ignore the facts or not take action. We’re not talking a grey issue….unbelievable and very sad.

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      I think this is the tip of the iceberg and due to the big money involved, it was a deliberate coverup. we shall see

  14. Jackie
    November 11, 2011

    Very well said. Reading about this made me absolutely sick!

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      as a mom…it’s so reprehensible

      • Raisel
        November 13, 2011

        As a human being it is reprehensible.

  15. becky
    November 11, 2011

    I’m so sickened by the entire thing I don’t know what to say. I do think they need to keep culling people out of the program/university. I say go as high up the chain as necessary and don’t stop with the university employees, go on to law enforcement or anybody else who knew about it. I keep hearing on the news excuses being offered for the behavior of the grad student who didn’t do anything but called his father. I hear ‘he was afraid of losing his job’ or ‘he was young’. He wasn’t that young and like you said, when did a job become more important than a child’s life. Everybody involved should be dismissed from their job and held responsible – as they are – for what happened. I have always told my children and my students to watch and do nothing when you see a wrong happening makes you just as guilty as the person committing the wrong. And for Paterno to say that he would retire at the end of the season (before he was fired) how disconnected from the real world is he? How could these ‘adults’ put a football program or a university above the lives of children? What example is this university setting for its students and other children. Where is the moral compass that Paterno is so famous for?

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      I think there were people in law enforcement that dropped the ball. I don’t know if it was deliberate or not. I wouldn’t doubt it.

  16. Annie
    November 11, 2011

    I agree with everything you said, Lynn. Unfortunately, I think we may have only touched the tip of the iceberg. New allegations are supposedly coming forth as soon as today that will be even more damning. Sandusky had access to hundreds of vulnerable boys and he was the primary fundraiser (raising millions) for The Second Mile. Allegations have begun to surface that he acted as “pimp” to wealthy businessmen and investors. If that is true, this situation is beyond sick.

    I read the 23 page affidavit (not advised if you are already over-the-top angry and disgusted,) but I think it explains in detail “who knew what when.” Supposedly, from Victim #2, Paterno knew Sandusky had a fetish for boys. He received a report by the graduate student at his home. Can’t ignore that. Also, Paterno had a meeting with Curley where Paterno reported “disturbing” and “inappropriate” conduct in the shower by Sandusky and a young boy. But, this really isn’t about Paterno or when anyone knew…the fact is THEY ALL KNEW, but chose to ignore it. The football program and Penn State were running like a well-oiled machine and no one wanted to remove the KY jelly. It’s disgusting.

    The only other thing that you said that I question is the janitors role. Why didn’t he head slam the guy against the wall? Maybe he should have, but at least he immediately made known what he saw to the janitoral staff and then to his supervisor. It was football season 2000. He was upset and crying so much so that the staff thought he would have a heart attack. As the report said, “Jim (janitor) had fought in the Korean war…seen people with their guts blown out, arms dismembered…but he said, “I just witnessed something in there that I’ll never forget.” So why didn’t he do more? Why didn’t he go to the police? I know you’ve made clear that you would take this to the highest authorities immediately, but put yourself in Jim, the janitor’s shoes for a minute. Would a janitor’s story ever take down a whole campus? This is not the movies…Erin Brockovich trouncing PG&E and becoming a hero. I’m not saying it is right, but I think he thought he did all that he could by telling his supervisors. It is not the same thing as those in authority who could rectify the situation by one phone call to the police…the President of the university, Paterno, Curly, Schultz, the Attorney General at the time, the board of trustees, etc. I’m not letting the janitor off the hook, but he must have been at least 60 years old at the time, and supposedly the case completely traumatized him. Even worse, he now suffers from dementia and lives in a nursing home, incompetent to testify.

    The bottom line is there was a coverup and it runs deep. You can ask how this could happen, but I think we should also look at the fact that people knew this story was too big. Sandusky was investigated in 1998 and the prosecutor found “no evidence of wrong doing.” Since the prosecutor on the case has since “completely vanished” and hasn’t been seen or heard from since 2005 (although his computer was tampered and broken) this leads one to believe that we’ve only begun to air the dirty laundry on Penn State.
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    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      I agree with you. I did know that the prosecutor vanished and I’m sure there was a huge conspiracy. I think the “rumors” of pimping out kids will prove to be true.

      I know that the janitor did tell people but he was a temp and didn’t make a report. I realize that being at the bottom of the totem pole as a “janitor” would lend very little credence to him. I think this is just the tip of the iceberg and that it will be found to be a huge coverup.

      I have been following this story since the get go because we spend our life watching ESPN. It’s awful, isn’t it?

      • Annie
        November 11, 2011

        SORRY…I just realized that I completely hogged your site with my rant. You can delete it if you like. Yes, it is awful! More than awful. Downright despicable.

        • Lynn
          November 11, 2011

          no worries…i thought what you said was amazing

          • Annie
            November 11, 2011

            It was your article that inspires. I just reacted to it. Thank you!

    • Name *
      November 14, 2011

      Lynn, thank you for the post. Annie, thank you for this extended comment. I read the Grand Jury affidavit, too, and it was something. Wow. It makes me livid and breaks my heart at the same time, that so many adults either witnessed the rapes or heard of them and no one, NO ONE, picked up a phone to call the police. It they’re so scared of losing a job or whatever, make it anonymous. What’s so hard about that? They can’t force you to give your name if you’re making a phone call? Gotta be a pay phone somewhere someone could use, so they wouldn’t get tracked down. Come on. & I agree, how do you walk away when you see someone sodomizing a 10-year-old? Then go home, talk about it with Dad and then the next day take it to JoePa. Really? Wow.

      I’m glad all this has hit a nerve and their is so much discussion—we need to remind ourselves what is out there, who is out there, and be ready, fortify ourselves to be ready to step in the second we are needed, especially when children are involved.

      Thanks for the post.

      • Lynn
        November 14, 2011

        i’d like to think that all this talk will change something for the next person who witness a horrific thing but i really wonder if it will

  17. Pamela D Hart
    November 11, 2011

    Lynn, there isn’t much I can add to your post or the other comments here. All I know is it’s HARD TO DO THE RIGHT THING and that’s why honorable people are in the minority these days. It’s easier to fluff it off, turn your back, close your eyes or pass the ball (no pun). Like you and the others here, there is NO way in hell I could’ve stood by and done nothing. Had I seen it with my own eyes, I would’ve intervened. Had someone told me about it, there is no way I could’ve just reported it and gone on my merry way. I would’ve HAD to investigated further. There is NO way I could live with myself even thinking an innocent child was being harmed in some way. It’s our duty as adults to PROTECT children, at all costs, no matter what.
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    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      yeah…i think that’s the saddest part of all. How many people turned a deaf ear…

  18. Dawn Sticklen
    November 11, 2011

    Amen.

  19. Tracy @nystoopmama
    November 11, 2011

    “The first janitor who walked on a Sandusky giving oral sex to a minor; why didn’t he head slam the guy against the wall? How do you walk away from that? The second person that walked in and saw Sandusky sodomizing a minor; I would have rushed into that shower and stopped it. Not just gone home and told my dad.”

    ABSOLUTELY. I can be a little bit confrontational, especially when it involves children or animals. Sometimes I overstep my boundaries and later regret it. Sometimes I don’t. In THIS INSTANCE, though?! Holy CHRIST. I would have SCREAMED at him to stop. I would have gotten in his face so the kid could run away and then dialed 911. I mean, I understand that there are people who AVOID confrontation, but in this instance?! It’s inexcusable. They’re disgusting cowards. You don’t go to your dad. You don’t go to the head coach, or the athletic director: YOU CALL THE POLICE IMMEDIATELY.

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      I know…it’s unimaginable what occurred and how little people did about it

  20. RedShoes51
    November 11, 2011

    I know… this is all senseless… A total break down of society at SO many levels…

    I used this as a lecture point in classes yesterday as to how we all have responsibilities when it comes to looking after those who are being victimized…

    It’s a responsibility that we ALL have…

    ~shoes~

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      Yeah! What does this say about us as a society!

  21. Mom2JBG
    November 11, 2011

    “the world is a dangerous place to live-not because of the people who are evil-but because of the people who don’t do anything about it”. Albert Einstein

    • Lynn
      November 11, 2011

      Too true!

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  23. Missy | The Literal Mom
    November 13, 2011

    I know – this is such a bad, bad situation. I’m getting a bad taste in my mouth about college football and the lengths they’ll go to to protect it.

    • Lynn
      November 13, 2011

      yeah, we’re kind of hoping that this will bring down big time college football and all the bullshit that goes along with it

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  25. Kathleen
    November 17, 2011

    this is a great post. agree with everything you said

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