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I’d like to tell you that I that I learned a whole bunch of new and exciting things at Mom 2.0 Summit but the truth is, I didn’t. I did have a whole bunch of funny conversations most of which I don’t remember and some of which are too politically incorrect to write down. So what does that leave me with? I don’t know but I think I’ll just stream of consciousness and see what happens. Stay tuned!
I actually had a pretty interesting conversation on the plane on the way to the conference. Perhaps I should tell you about that first. I was next to a woman (I never got her name) and she was flying out to Utah to pick up her son who attends Brigham Young. He’s 21 like Daniel and apparently he had been out with a church group at some extreme trampoline type thing when he jumped on the trampoline and since he was 6’2″ and 300 pounds he hit the floor.
Yeah, you heard me right. HE HIT THE FLOOR. He broke the tibia in his left leg and had a rod put in there and he shattered his left ankle and there were two plates in that. She, of course, lived in Georgia and couldn’t get there for the surgery but fortunately had relatives nearby.
Because she had a job she could only be there for a short while and her goal was to get him home.
FIRST it made me realize HOW VERY LUCKY I was to have been able to be with Keely the entire time she was going through her surgery and her rehab. Obviously, some of that was back at school but she was home with us for almost two months first.
Back to the story. I asked how she was going to her him home since he seemed completely incapacitated. After all, Keely was on crutches but this kid had TWO bad legs. She told me they were hoping that he could use crutches because the leg with the rod in it would be able to handle some weight.
Then we had to discuss how very difficult crutches were (Keely was on them 6 months) and I told her that a PT had taught her the proper way to use them and that was important. I also told her about crutch buddies which were life savers. They were covers for the arm and hand parts and also a carrier for cell phones and water bottles and such.
That brought us to the next conversation which was that sometimes the worst things that happen to you become the best things that ever happened to you. With Keely, we had discussed this and I had explained that it wasn’t adversity which defined you but how you reacted to adversity.
It changed Keely’s life.
THAT BRINGS ME TO NUMBER 2: I think I might actually have a lot of life experience stories that are valuable to share and I don’t really do that often. Perhaps I should make some changes to this here blog.
Then after all that she was telling me that her son has Aspergers (no longer a thing … I know, I know) and I mentioned that Daniel had been diagnosed at 4 and her son was diagnosed at 12. He receives a bunch of special services at BYU and I pointed out that she was lucky because that would be very helpful for the upcoming fall semester. There ensued a conversation about how helpful Duke Disability Services had been for Keely.
As we were discussing the Aspergers (not a thing anymore…I know, I know) she was telling me stories and I realized that Daniel was a billion times worse then this kid when he was younger. That in itself isn’t odd but whats odd is that I would never meet anybody at this point and use Aspergers’ as a term to describe him in the first minutes of a conversation about him.
It made me realize how fortunate we are that we had such a successful journey with Daniel. He had immense sensory issues (still has some), immense learning problems (still there but has a 3.8 at Duke) and social problems which still affect him to some degree.
It was really eye opening and I wondered if perhaps I should be a bit more serious and helpful on this blog rather then the normal bullshit.
I will have to ponder this.
AND THE FINAL POINT is that I’ve been extremely fortunate with my children both through hard work and luck.
Anyways, that was my airline trip. That, of course, wasn’t my intention
with this post but it is what it is.